This isn’t something I’ve just recently realized, I’ve come to terms with my strong opinions i.e., judgmental ways a looooooooooooong time ago.
I have, just recently realized I’m not interested in practicing the art of not being strongly opinionated, having and expressing overly aggressive opinions, satirical unwanted opinions, basically I’m annoying as shit to the people I love and hold dear to my heart.
Now I’m not walking up to strangers expressing my unwarranted opinions of them, that shit is rude, but I do feel obligated to express my opinions to my family and friends. Especially in cases where I feel my opinions are helpful/constructive; no I am not perfect and I hope that I don’t walk around like my “shit” doesn’t stink.
Isn’t the first step of recovery, admittance? Although, I’m not seeking recovery from my judgmental “problem”, I’m just trying to shed some light on it. Some people in my life have chosen to “cut” me out of their lives because the truth hurts and it’s easier to blame someone (me) for saying something “inappropriate” then to look in the mirror and see if there is any validity to what was said and do something about it.
A hit dog is going to howl (I don’t see how that saying is applicable here, I just wanted to write it.)
In the past I wrongfully accused my husband of being judgmental, because I was one of those people who didn’t like hearing the truth. What he said wasn’t coming from a hateful place it was coming from a “you need to get your shit together” or “you need to reevaluate the decisions you’ve made” place. And therein lies the problem most people, myself included don’t want to hear the “I told you so’s” when ultimately hearing it will help them in being more thoughtful in the decisions they make, IMO (wink, see what I did there).
If you want to keep it all the way “one hundred” (google it, I don’t have time to hip you to urban slang), if you don’t do stupid shit, that you know is stupid, essentially there will be nothing to be ashamed of. And if you decide to do stupid shit be prepared for your loved ones and not so loved ones to talk shit about you. It comes with the territory! There I go be all judgmental again…