Is She Weak If She Accepts That He Cheats?

Is She Weak If She Accepts That He Cheats?

In Jill Scott’s song titled “Lighthouse” from her album Woman she sings the following lyrics in the last verse of the song;

Sitting here
Contemplating
If we should even be
See I’m in love with a man
Who loves me
For me
He’d do anything
Easily
Oh his heart knows no boundaries
But
He needs
Sometimes
To write
With a different pen
On different paper
He needs
Oh
He needs
He needs
Mmm hmmm
So I’m sitting here
Contemplating
If we should even be
Like him
I, too, have needs
Like
Like my thought on a beat
Hypnotic and sweet
Like
Part of the dream
And I need you
On the other side of the speaker
To look up a little more
And think a little deeper
And live in your truth
I need that too
I need to do that too
I need

These lyrics and the idea behind acceptance of a mans “need” sow his seed with various Continue reading “Is She Weak If She Accepts That He Cheats?”

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Culture & Respect

Culture & Respect

I think it says a lot about how you were raised, your level of intellect and your ability to respect what makes us different when you visit someones home or country and embrace their culture open heartedly.

I’m an American of African descent (I’m black), my culture is American, I’m proud of my heritage no matter how dark it can be at times. It is what it is. But I also love meeting and speaking to people who come from different countries. One thing my mother taught me that I’m proud of, is when you go to someone’s home and they offer you food, you try it. Continue reading “Culture & Respect”

Silver-linings…

Silver-linings…

Sometimes for fun when things get tough and/or disappointing I sit back reflect and try to find the possible silver-lining in the situation.

It’s almost been a week since Trump was named victor of the United States of America and I’ve actually found a silver-lining in his future presidency.

To all my non-black people of color who have expressed to me in the past that black people like to make everything about race and that black people just need to get over Continue reading “Silver-linings…”

Michael Moore: Morning-After To-Do List @alternet

Roll up your sleeves people, there are fascists to defeat.

Source: Michael Moore: Morning-After To-Do List @alternet

Random Thoughts: Elephants and Donkeys

Random Thoughts: Elephants and Donkeys

Political factions or parties began to form during the struggle over ratification of the federal Constitution of 1787. Friction between them increased as attention shifted from the creation of a new federal government to the question of how powerful that federal government would be. The Federalists, led by Secretary of Treasury Alexander Hamilton, wanted a strong central government, while the Anti-Federalists, led by Secretary of State Thomas Jefferson, advocated states’ rights instead of centralized power.  Federalists coalesced around the commercial sector of the country while their opponents drew their strength from those favoring an agrarian society. The ensuing partisan battles led George Washington to warn  –

“Let me now take a more comprehensive view, and warn you in the most solemn manner against the baneful effects of the spirit of party generally.”  Farewell Address, September 19, 1796The Library of Congress

George Washington in his farewell address sent a warning of how political factions can Continue reading “Random Thoughts: Elephants and Donkeys”

Trying to Understand what Can’t be Understood…

Trying to Understand what Can’t be Understood…

Today I had a conversation with a colleague about the election, she explained to me why she voted for Donald Trump, I don’t have a problem with anyone that votes for someone or something they believe in (that’s what makes America the country that it is FREEDOM) and I try not to make judgement calls on their character, especially if I’m not invested emotionally in a person. I had the conversation because I’m interested what makes others tick and in understanding others perspectives that differ from mine, learning is a beautiful thing and we can learn a ton if we just opened a dialogue with one another and truly listened.

In our twenty minute conversation that covered the election, #BlackLivesMatter versus Continue reading “Trying to Understand what Can’t be Understood…”

Repost: Very Smart Brothas

There is an understandable inclination to believe that by voting for and ultimately electing Donald Trump, White people (particularly working class White people) voted against their own self-interests. After all, this is a man who became a billionaire by swindling and defrauding and sometimes just outright not paying people exactly like them, and there’s no real evidence that a Trump presidency will be much different for them than the Trump industry has been.

This is not particularly untrue. But it misses the point. As I did.

It  — and in this context, “it” would be “the entire election season and today’s reaction” — reminds me of a story about Dorothy Dandridge. While visiting a hotel in Las Vegas in the 50s, the iconic entertainer dared dip her toe into the all-White swimming pool; an act which made the hotel management so upset — so disgusted by Dandridge’s toe contaminating the water — that they subsequently drained the entire thing.

Now, this story has never been confirmed to be true. But America’s racially antagonistic foundation, history, present, zeitgeist, and legacy makes it believable. Because there are many, many, many other stories — hundreds of thousands of them — of White people being so appalled and repelled by the presence of Blackness that they willingly and enthusiastically did something that would seem to go against their self-interests. And its with this context that the idea of a pool being drained — a painstakingly long and messy and arduous and expensive process — just because a Black person roundly considered one the world’s most beautiful women got her toenails wet becomes a plausible story.

Of course that happened. Because it happens all the time.

In this election, White people did not vote against their self-interests. They may have voted against aself-interest — a few actually — but not their most important one: The preservation of White supremacy. Retaining the value of a Whiteness they believed to be increasingly devalued superseded everything else. Including their own livelihoods; their own physical and financial well-beings; their own Christianity; their own agency; their own money; their own educations; their own futures; their own children’s futures, their own country’s legacy; their own country’s status with the rest of the world; their own environment; their own food, air, and water; their own rights; and their own lives.

And please note that I am not including any qualifiers. For working class Whites. Or Whites from rust-belt cities. Or White men. Or White people who didn’t graduate from college. Or rural Whites. Or Midwestern Whites. Or Southern whites. This is on ALL White people. Who are complicit even if they didn’t vote for Trump. Because they obviously haven’t done enough to repudiate the mindsets existing in their families and amongst their friends; possessed by their co-workers and neighbors; shared during private holiday gatherings and public city townhalls. Who have shown us that nothing existing on Earth or Heaven or Hell matters more to them than being White and whichever privileges — real or fabricated; concrete or spiritual — existing as White in America provides.

I admit, I underestimated them. Of course, I knew of the presence of White supremacy and the appeal of perpetuating it. You can not exist as a Black person in America without at least a rudimentary and peripheral understanding of it. What I didn’t realize, however, was exactly how powerful this want to retain Whiteness is. I assumed, wrongly, that enough of them would value their own lives, their own humanity, more than the need for White supremacy to be preserved. But I failed to realize how intertwined these things are for them. There apparently is no point in even existing without existing as White. Whiteness is past an identity or status. It is their oxygen, their plasma, their connective tissue.

I’m trying very hard to find silver linings today. Some source of comfort or consolation. But I can not. Maybe I will eventually. But right now, this, the idea that White people are so possessed with clutching and cultivating and elevating White supremacy that they will endanger and outright sacrifice their own fucking lives to do so, is all I can think about. And if they feel that way about their own lives, how do you think they feel about mine?

What If?

What If?

What if white supremacy didn’t exist…

What if Christopher Columbus sailed the ocean blue and actually ended up in India…

What if slavery never existed…

What if we’re not the creation of a benevolent being and just a science experiment dropped off on this planet called Earth for no rhyme or reason…

What if Queen Victoria never made the white wedding gown popular…

What if women were viewed as equals to men…

What if gender roles were nonexistent…

What if mining for precious stones/jewels actually hurts our planet because those jewels are essential to its longevity and existence…

What if we all banded together and forced our government to what its suppose to do for the greater good of the people…

What if we loved each other…

What if we truly saw each other as brothers and sisters not as skin colors…

What if we cared just as much about the environment as we do Kim K’s latest publicity stunt…

What if…

What a beautiful world we’d live in, a girl can dream can’t she?

T

 

 

 

 

Vote…deez nutz

Vote…deez nutz

If I’ve said it once I’ll say it a thousand times more…I fucking hate our presidential candidates.

With that being said I’m not going to let that stop me from voting, but it makes me feel dirty to have to think that I’m being forced to vote for someone I don’t want to vote for, someone I don’t believe in.

Would it be over the top to compare this upcoming race to rape? Because I feel like come November 2nd I’m going to be raped and that I’m doing nothing to stop said rape from happening even though I know it’s going to happen.

I don’t want to vote for Hillary but at the same time I can’t allow the chance of my not voting to allow a possible Trump victory. 

I’ve heard this saying quite a few times in my life, “choose between the lesser of the two evils”. I feel like that saying rings so true with this election. 

I’m not feeling it, are you?

T