Random Thoughts: White House Down 

Random Thoughts: White House Down 

I’ve been fairly quiet here in the “adventure zone” as it relates to politics and ya’ll president (I didn’t vote for that nigga, so I’m not claiming that nigga).

While I wasn’t expecting any spectacular politically ground breaking shit to happen (You know a government that takes the needs of the people into consideration) if Hillary was elected I definitely didn’t think I’d be on the other side of contemplating purchasing a gun (guns scare the fuck out of me and the fact that buying one is an option says a lot) for protection cause racist niggas are getting bolder now that their president won.

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Culture & Respect

Culture & Respect

I think it says a lot about how you were raised, your level of intellect and your ability to respect what makes us different when you visit someones home or country and embrace their culture open heartedly.

I’m an American of African descent (I’m black), my culture is American, I’m proud of my heritage no matter how dark it can be at times. It is what it is. But I also love meeting and speaking to people who come from different countries. One thing my mother taught me that I’m proud of, is when you go to someone’s home and they offer you food, you try it. Continue reading “Culture & Respect”

Trying to Understand what Can’t be Understood…

Trying to Understand what Can’t be Understood…

Today I had a conversation with a colleague about the election, she explained to me why she voted for Donald Trump, I don’t have a problem with anyone that votes for someone or something they believe in (that’s what makes America the country that it is FREEDOM) and I try not to make judgement calls on their character, especially if I’m not invested emotionally in a person. I had the conversation because I’m interested what makes others tick and in understanding others perspectives that differ from mine, learning is a beautiful thing and we can learn a ton if we just opened a dialogue with one another and truly listened.

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My Love/Hate Relationship…

My Love/Hate Relationship…

2016-rio-olympics759-1Now that the 2016 Rio summer Olympics have wrapped up and I’ve come down off my high of patriarchal pride filled euphoria, claiming #blackgirlmagic and #AmericaStayWinning, my real feelings towards America start to resurface.

I  have a love and hate relationship with this country. Now don’t get me wrong there isn’t any place on the planet that I’d rather live, because I’ve fallen victim to the bullshit and abuse that is America, more specifically the black experience (I say black experience because I can only speak to my own personal experience which happens to be a black one, I can’t speak for other people of color because I don’t know what it feels like to have their experiences in America, that isn’t to say that the black experience is the only at times horrible experience in this country because I know it isn’t I just can’t speak to those experiences personally) in America. I don’t know what it’s like to be black anywhere else and from what I read and see in the news shit might just be a little worse elsewhere. At least I have the Constitution, Bill of Rights, Civil Rights Act of 1964 the EEOC, and some aspects of the judicial system to protect me here.

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Cribler moi ce? (Cause french is fly)

Cribler moi ce? (Cause french is fly)

Riddle me this?

When people (myself included) say they give zero fucks about something by acknowledging the thing that you give zero fucks about aren’t you inadvertently proving that you actually give all of the fucks about that something?

Why do we expect so much from celebrities/public figures but so little of ourselves? We don’t need a public forum of platform to do good in the world, just go out and do it why are you waiting for your favorite celebrity to fight for a cause you feel passionate about?

Why do we as free American citizens let the government get away with self-serving agendas? Our elected officials have proven over and over that what’s right/good for the people has nothing to do with what they have in mind for themselves.

Why is everything President Obama’s fault? Like can this dude #live. If aliens came down and started a war the republicans would blame President Obama.

How could someone else’s confidence makes “you” feel inferior and ultimately make that the reason why you dislike that person? What the hell does my flyness have to do with you and why do you care so much?

Why do people who have nothing a reasonable person would envy choose to call everyone that dislikes them “haters” when ultimately people dislike them because they’re an asshole.

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Random Thoughts: Not So Random Thoughts

Random Thoughts: Not So Random Thoughts

There has been so much on my mind the last few days, the massacre in Orlando stands out for obvious reasons.

It’s been all over the news since it happened Sunday morning, I won’t speak about the coward/murderer because too much attention is being thrown his way. I will speak on the victims and how I hope their loved ones find peace as the days go on and find ways to keep the memory of their family members alive.

I can’t imagine how the family members felt receiving those terrifying text messages from their loved ones, it’s heartbreaking. It’s one of the biggest fears of any good parent; to get a call in the middle of the night that your child is in harms way or worse, dead. Which leads me to my next set of thoughts, I’m not religious more specifically I don’t believe in God in the traditional sense, and when I say traditional sense I mean the God you read about from the big three religions those being Christianity, Judaism and Islam.

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Who decided the “Hood” isn’t worth saving?

Who decided the “Hood” isn’t worth saving?

My “hood” is Philadelphia, more specifically I grew up in North Philly. It’s not the best of neighborhoods, but it’s where I come from. There have been great times and not so great times, but isn’t that the case with any neighborhood?

In it’s hay day North Philly was a mecca, black owned businesses lined Ridge and Germantown avenues, beautiful brownstones and clean streets. Today’s North Philly is extremely different, with the breakdown of the black/brown families via the insertion of drugs into the neighborhoods, a once great place to live as become labeled “sketchy” and ghetto by the people that come from the neighborhood as well as outsiders.

I’ve always wondered what the fascination with the suburbs was, why do most people who come from the “hood” and make a little something of themselves decide that they need to move to the suburbs in order to complete their journey of success?

Why can’t we make North Philly what it used to be? A safe neighborhood with beautiful homes, where our children can grow up in a safe loving environment. Its not impossible, not if we all decide it’s worth saving.

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What Do You Want to Be?

What Do You Want to Be?

I’ve seen so many posts on social media about “adulting” and success, it leads me to reminisce.

My third grade teacher Mr. Creedon (I think that’s how his name was spelled, its been a long time) asked us to write down what we wanted to be when we grew up. As an adult I look back and I remember a kid who was so bright eyed and exuberant; I wanted to be a doctor of course, because why not.

We’re taught at a young age that specific professions, would lead to a lucrative, successful and happy life.

Needless to say I didn’t become a doctor (couldn’t stomach it, I learned that in A&P dissecting a piglet) I don’t think I’m less successful, because I don’t hold a position of power. I’m not a “big deal” at my current company nor do I want to be. But most importantly I AM HAPPY, and after having tons of hardships and obstacles in my personal life I’ve realized that peace of mind and happiness outweigh, titles and salary.

Ever since I found my happiness, work and “being somebody” has become less important its so important that its not on my radar at all.

I’ve found inner peace, love and happiness with my family and that makes my goals extremely different from that third grader who wanted to be a doctor. Now my goals include, cooking a bomb ass meal that makes my kids say “thank you mommy that was sooo good,” making memories with them that I didn’t have growing up. Making sure that their level of happiness outweighs any stress or sadness that they could ever experience at this time in their lives. And being the best me that I can be in order to show them what one half of great parenting looks like.

I’m looking forward to things I never thought I’d be looking forward to, being an awesome grandmother and spoiling my grand babies (waaaaaaaay down the road). Growing old with my husband and experiencing that part of our journey together. When I was unhappy and thinking that happiness meant something else those things terrified me.

As cliche as it sounds I feel like happiness trumps everything, like the Mary J. Blige song “Be Happy” says “All I really want is to be happy…”.

I’ve found happiness and more there is really nothing more I can ask for. Surround yourself with people who make you happy not sad, imperfect or small. Things make you happy for a moment but loving yourself and others deserving of your love will make you happy for a lifetime.

What do you guys want to be?

T

 

I’m Super Judgmental and Guess what I don’t care.

I’m Super Judgmental and Guess what I don’t care.

This isn’t something I’ve just recently realized, I’ve come to terms with my strong opinions i.e., judgmental ways a looooooooooooong time ago.

I have, just recently realized I’m not interested in practicing the art of not being strongly opinionated, having and expressing overly aggressive opinions, satirical unwanted opinions, basically  I’m annoying as shit to the people I love and hold dear to my heart.

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PTSD or Nah?

PTSD or Nah?

PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Day

I think employers should offer a day for individuals to utilize in case of “when keeping it real goes wrong”.

For instance, lets say your colleague for some reason felt safe in his/her work environment and in that moment of safety felt the need to ask/make racially or discriminatory statements/questions. “We” should be allowed to use the following day of said incident as a PTSD.

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