10 Things I learned…#TheFormationTour

10 Things I learned…#TheFormationTour

Last Thursday I attended Beyoncfrom-tidal-16bd7ea90c70e612bcfc86710667602acd76ee10-s900-c85e’s “The Formation Tour” in Philadelphia, I am a Beyonce fan not to be confused with a “Stan” (A stan is an avid fan and supporter of a celebrity, franchise, film, or group, often a rock/pop musician. The object of the stan’s affection is often called their fave. Based on the song “Stan” by American rapper Eminem, the term has frequently been used to describe artist devotees whose fanaticism matches the severity of the obsessive character named Stan in the 2000 Eminem song. The word has been described as a portmanteau of “stalker” and “fan”) I’ve listened to and appreciated her music since her time as one of Destiny’s Children. I’ve never attended any Beyonce’s concerts, the closest I’ve come to seeing Beyonce in concert was in front of my big screen television on my couch.

Ten things I learned…#TheFormationTour

10.   Never show up at the start time, because the opening act will open and then you will wait an hour in the rain for the Queen to arrive.

9.    Rain of any kind in the cold during an outdoor concert is the bitchiest of bitches.

8.    Beyonce is a BOSS, not only did ole girl perform in the rain, she played in water in the rain. You ain’t about that rain life, shit I ain’t about that rain life and I sat/stood in it for two hours.

7.     Freakum dresses are NOT created equally- If you are built like a sack of potatoes for whatever reason, don’t squeeze your potatoe-y ass into a little black dress for a Beyonce concert no one wants to see that.

6.     When Beyonce say’s she’s flawless, believe that shit…bish performed for two hours in the pouring windy ass rain and not nan eye lash or foundation move out of place.

5.     Uber is the best invention since sliced bread – I Ubered for the first time and it was absolutely pleasant and super convenient. I hate taxi’s/cabs with a passion because of their tendency to be racist towards my people, Uber will not only pick you up while being black they will take you to black ass places while being black. #Winning.

4.     The Beyhive smokes crack, and not regular crack that good crack, you would have to smoke the good crack to pay over five hundred dollars to stand and hope to catch one of Queen Bey’s sweat covered towels.

3.      People eat food in the rain while wearing ponchos…I was perplexed.

2.     Pyrotechnics’s are the bomb when you’re freezing your ass off in the rain and cold. Not to ruin it for those who have yet to partake in the tour of formation but there is fire and fireworks and shit.

1.      So far this is the most entertaining concert I have attended in person (I’m sorry Beyonce fans from the looks of Pink’s tours I’ve watched on TV she has Beyonce beat when it comes to shear entertainment) I’ve seen Beyonces’ tours via HBO specials and they weren’t really anything to phone home about, but this one was really enjoyable from start to finish (in the rain). She is a true professional with a ton of class because my ass would have set a rain date and chucked the deuces for a sunnier day.

Did any of you guys attend the concert? What was your favorite moment? Who should I be on the look out for as far as live performances?




Random Thoughts – Blizzard 2016


22.4 inches is what the weather guessers are guessing we accumulated during winter storm Jonas here in Philadelphia, PA.

We did our normal grocery shopping Thursday night, it was super packed of course with storm shoppers. The kids got a snow day out of it, so it’s not all bad for them I guess. My morning commute would have been normal if a man on the bus hadn’t had a seizure as soon as I stepped on the bus. Talk about eventful mornings, the man was alright as far as I could tell (but then again, I’m not a medical professional), he was breathing when I got off the bus to wait for another bus to come.

I like snow when it first falls, living in the city it gets disgusting around the second day, grey and grimy; it’s not a good look.

Winter has just really showed up and I’m already planning summer vacation.

X-files premiered last night and I must say I was pleasantly surprised with this reboot, I watched the series when I was younger, but I couldn’t fully appreciate it the way I can now as an adult.

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Random Thoughts: Holiday’s Suck!

random-thoughts-logo-sq-turq1I’ve never really cared to be jovial during the holiday seasons, I don’t celebrate so I obviously don’t get the hype of being happy and skipping around all day every day because of this fictitious thing called “Christmas spirit”. I mean honestly people should find a reason to be jovial all year round not just because they’re giving and receiving shit from people.

Sometimes while wishing I’d win the lottery I think of the scene in Half Baked (if you’ve never seen it…smh you shouldn’t be reading my blog if you’ve never seen it that’s all I’m going to say about that) where Scarface quits his job at a fast food restaurant and how fucking dope that would be to do in real life.


My youngest child talks like a robot when he speaks, which is weird because most kids pick up their speech patterns from the people that are around most. No one in our home talks like a robot but him, I think that makes him a fucking genius. Come on, that’s fly! everyone in your house is all regular and you’ve taken on this dope ass robot personality, only a genius could pull that off.

I haven’t spoken to my mother in almost a month, maybe it’s been a month and it feels good.

The chick I used to be friends with that I work with that I’m not friends with anymore, less and less as the days go by I feel like I don’t want to drop kick her or punch her in her throat. I guess that’s a good thing, I’m just amazed and kind of jealous at how fucking seamlessly fake she is with everyone at work. Like I know for a fact this chick dislikes most of the people she pretends to like at work, including me (now anyway) but you’d never be able to tell just by watching her. The shit is pretty magical and fucking Oscar worthy, fuck trying to move up in the company she should get an acting job, because she’s the best fucking actress I’ve seen in my life.

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Random Thoughts: Compliment or Naw?


I’m not one to shy away from a compliment especially when I’m feelin myself, I’m feelin myself, I’m feelin my!, but have you ever received a compliment that almost made you respond “bitch did you just shade me?”.  I’ve received them quite often as of late.

So here’s the thing I wear wigs at work because honestly my choice of hairstyle currently is IMO not corporate friendly (shaved perimeter with locs on top). So I have three different wigs I switch between, one straight, curly and wavy.  So my co-worker says, “I really like your hair, today”, I’m sure she didn’t mean anything by it, but the insertion of the word “today” made me think damn as opposed to what bitch?

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Random Thoughts: Petty Mean Girl vs. Mature Positive Heifer


Why does it seem like the more we grow, the less fun we are?

I’m not ashamed to admit that I was the team captain #teampetty, in the past I have enjoyed, better yet marveled in my pettiness.

I was really good at being a petty mean girl.

Alright let me clear something up, I wasn’t petty or mean just for the sake of being petty or mean, it was always in response to someone doing or saying something crazy to me. I was one of those cut deep, hit below the belt type of bitches when crossed.

Now, I’m learning that every action doesn’t call for a reaction, sometimes the best revenge is no revenge. Especially, if the person thinks they know you and are expecting for you to react in a certain way.

I decided that giving energy, especially negative energy to people who truly mean nothing to me is something I didn’t want to continue to do.

Looking back, I laugh at some of the things I’ve said in response to someone else, but in all actuality I gave that person power over me, by allowing them to “make” me do something. Respond.

The power of “ignore that hoe” is amazing, I’m fully aware that some cases are a little more complex and “ignore that hoe” may not work and that’s when I say you are well in your right to “check that hoe”. #I’mjustsayin

So now I’m #teammaturepositiveheifer and I guess that’s not a bad team to play for, not that I don’t have the urge to cross over to #teampetty. I practice restraint, ask hubby that ish is dumb hard for me, I’ve been the MVP for #teampetty for about 20 years.

But hey I’m a work in progress…


Random Thoughts: Work Edition


So I’m the only black person in a “front” office position in my workplace, the other black person works in the mail room, there are three other women of color, Asian and East Asian. All of the other women in my office are (you guessed it) white women, majority of them come from money, all live in center city and run in pretty much the same social circles.

I’ve noticed that they tend to exclude myself and the East Asian girls, but they include the one Asian young lady who is Indian. Now, I try not to speculate on anything, I’m an observer, in my head I wonder what makes the Indian young lady so different from myself and the other ladies? Two of the other ladies are married with children like myself, the other is in a relationship but she lives in center city, I think she’s hip and trendy, but to my knowledge she doesn’t come from money.

The Indian young lady, doesn’t come from money, she doesn’t live in center city, but she does have an amazing spirit and personality. The point of this random thought is I wonder what makes her more relatable then the rest of us, more specifically me?

I’ve known plenty of white women from past employers who weren’t standoffish with black women (but then again they didn’t come from money either), I know I don’t give off negative energy, everyone in the office always talks about how friendly I am. But I wonder why it seems I’m left out of the loop so to speak, I don’t think its age, the only thing I can think of is the stigmatism that’s automatically associated with being a black woman especially a black woman who doesn’t hold the special socio-economic status that would allow me to appear more relatable.

Now I don’t think for a moment that any of these women are racist, but I do think they may have a preconceived notion of who they think I am that blocks them from being able to relate with me.

Maybe it’s because I don’t drink Starbucks or carry around a Louis Vuitton bag, naw I think it’s because I’m black (I kid, I kid, probably not because high-siddity black women don’t see it for me either)

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